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What to Do When a Parent Dies: A Checklist

Figures verified November 9, 2026 against Social Security: Survivors Benefits (Publication 05-10008) · Update log

Short answer

In the first days, get the death pronounced, choose a funeral home (it usually reports the death to Social Security) and secure your parent's home. Don't pay their debts from your own money: they are paid from the estate.

In the weeks after, find the will, order death certificates and notify their pension and insurers. Then the executor settles the estate. Most adult children owe no inheritance tax, except in Pennsylvania and Nebraska, but inherited IRAs must usually be emptied within 10 years.

The checklist

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The first days

If a surviving parent is alive, much of this is theirs to decide. Help, don't take over.

  1. Hospital or hospice staff do this. At home, call 911 or the hospice nurse.

  2. Check their papers and ask the funeral homes nearby whether they had a prepaid contract.

  3. The funeral home usually reports the death to Social Security and orders the death certificates.

  4. Lock up, take in pets, keep the utilities and homeowner's insurance going, and forward or collect the mail.

  5. Their debts are paid from their estate, not by the family. Keep receipts for anything you pay, such as the funeral, so the estate can repay you.

The first weeks

Find the paperwork and tell the people who need to know.

  1. Check their files, safe deposit box and lawyer. The will names the executor; the original goes to the probate court.

  2. Banks, insurers, the county recorder and the IRS may each want one.

  3. Confirm the death was reported and return any benefit paid for the month of death. A surviving parent may be due survivor benefits and the $255 payment. Details below.

  4. Ask about survivor benefits, burial allowances and any life insurance where you or a sibling is the beneficiary.

  5. Equifax, Experian and TransUnion will mark the file as deceased, which blocks identity theft.

  6. Statements and bills show every account, policy and debt you need to deal with.

The first few months

The estate. Usually one of you is the executor; the rest are beneficiaries.

  1. Accounts with beneficiaries, joint property and trust property skip it. A small estate may need only a small estate affidavit. Otherwise the executor petitions the probate court.

  2. EIN, estate bank account, inventory, creditors, tax returns, distribution. It is all in the executor checklist, and the free templates help with the paperwork.

  3. Keep it insured and maintained. Check for a transfer on death deed. If you sell, your basis is its value at death: see the capital gains calculator.

  4. Keep it insured. Check the title for a co-owner or a transfer on death beneficiary; if there is neither, many states have a short form for heirs at the motor vehicle office: see how to transfer a car title after death.

  5. Most adult children must empty an inherited IRA or 401(k) by the end of the 10th year after the death. Plan withdrawals to spread the income tax.

  6. Pennsylvania taxes adult children at 4.5% and Nebraska at 1% above $100,000. The other 48 states and DC don't tax children. Check your parent's state.

The first year

Taxes and wrapping up.

  1. Due April 15 of the year after the death. See final tax returns.

  2. Interest, dividends or rent after the death go on Form 1041.

  3. After the creditor period and taxes, with a signed receipt from each beneficiary.

How to notify Social Security of a death

  • The funeral home usually reports it if you give them the Social Security number. Otherwise call 1-800-772-1213 (TTY 1-800-325-0778) or visit a local office. You can't report a death online.
  • Return the payment for the month of death. Social Security pays a month behind, so the payment that arrives the month after the death has to go back. Ask the bank to return a direct deposit; don't cash a check.
  • The $255 death payment goes to a surviving spouse who lived with your parent, or if there is none, to a child who can get benefits on their record for the month of death, usually a minor child. Adult children generally can't claim it.
  • A surviving parent may be able to switch to a survivor benefit if it is higher than their own. They should contact Social Security.

Your parent's debts

Debts don't pass to the children. They are paid from what your parent left, in the order state law sets, before anyone inherits. If there isn't enough, most remaining debts go unpaid. You are only personally liable for debts you co-signed or held jointly, or if you are the executor and distribute the estate before paying its debts.

A debt collector may contact the executor about the estate's debts, but can't say or imply that you have to pay from your own money. If your parent was on Medicaid, the state can seek repayment of long-term care costs from the estate, so tell the executor.

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Frequently asked questions

What should I do first when a parent dies?

Get the death pronounced, call a funeral home and give them your parent's Social Security number, and secure their home. Everything financial can wait a few days.

Am I responsible for my parent's debts?

Generally no. Their debts are paid from their estate, and if the estate runs out the remaining debts usually go unpaid. You are responsible only for debts you co-signed or held jointly, or if you are the executor and pay out the estate before the debts.

How do I notify Social Security that my parent died?

The funeral home usually does it. If not, call 1-800-772-1213 (TTY 1-800-325-0778) or visit a local office; deaths can't be reported online. Return any payment for the month of death.

Do I pay tax on what I inherit from my parent?

Not federal income tax. State inheritance tax applies to children only in Pennsylvania (4.5%) and Nebraska (1% above $100,000). You do pay income tax on inherited IRA withdrawals and on any gain when you sell inherited property.

Who gets my parent's house if there is no will?

State intestacy law decides. Usually a surviving spouse takes all or part of it, and the children share the rest. The house goes through probate unless it was joint with survivorship, in a trust or covered by a transfer on death deed.

Sources

  1. 1.Social Security: Survivors Benefits (Publication 05-10008)ssa.gov
  2. 2.Social Security Handbook § 1517: time limit for the lump-sum death paymentssa.gov
  3. 3.CFPB: Does a person's debt go away when they die?consumerfinance.gov
  4. 4.IRS: Publication 590-B, Distributions from Individual Retirement Arrangementsirs.gov

This information is provided for educational purposes only and should not be considered legal or tax advice. Consult a qualified tax professional for guidance specific to your situation.